I am “ME” again!

2015 was a blur for me…literally. I really had a hard year. I had so many health issues, my daughter and my mom had health issues, and I was just physically and mentally spent. One thing different than usual though – when I get completely ruined down – is that I didn’t feel spiritually spent this time. That is truly what got me through these rough times. I became closer to God and turned to him even more. I relied on him instead of myself and I made it through somehow! We forget how good God is to us and that we need to rely on him ALWAYS.

My favorite Bible Verse: Jeremiah 29:11   For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

How amazing is that – God has planned out my life – how can I go wrong? Well it is so easy to go wrong – I know – I do it all the time! I make plans without getting advice from God. I tell him what I am going to do instead of listening to him. It’s hard! I want him just to make it easy for me but I have learned that all the twists and turns and mistakes have made me stronger and my journey was planned that way.
So, I thought I would share about some of my struggles – maybe it will help you know my thoughts and my frame of reference. I hope that you can relate or know that others may feel the same way or made the same mistakes. I am so busy taking care of others that I don’t focus on myself and 2015, I just about fell apart. I knew I felt bad and something was wrong, but I kept trudging along. I had my mom and my daughter; both, that had more urgent health issues and I needed to be the caretaker. I had lots of work on my job that I needed to accomplish and I just couldn’t take the time. I had community and church things that were always pressing and needed my attention. I always put other things in front of taking care of myself. I thought I was being selfish if I took care of me! WOW – I learned the very hard way when I almost had a physical and mental breakdown. I knew all last year that I was depressed, not confident, jealous, and grumpy and even isolated myself at times (I am a PEOPLE person – so this was something new). I didn’t even understand who I was and that made me even more stressed! Who was this person inside my frail, worn out body? I had NO energy, had brain fog, just felt terrible all over! I ached from head to toe…I thought I was getting old and that was just how it was going to be for the rest of my life. You see – I am overweight, have mechanical heart valve, high blood pressure, bad knees and a variety of other issues and I just accepted the fact that this was supposed to be how I felt. I grabbed fast food or something for dinner because I had to have food for my family (I am the mom!) Of course I was too tired to cook – I was barely making it through the day. I literally was too tired to get out of my car and make it inside – but I usually did.  Do you think I worked out – well I had a fitness center membership and paid my dues – but I guess you have to go – huh?  I literally had no energy to workout or even walk the halls at work.   Why would I think this was normal? How STUPID is that?
When autumn came, I had hit rock bottom…I was too tired to keep going. I had convinced myself I had cancer and thought I had a stroke or TIAs. Oh yeah, my left hand and arm started tingling…and still hasn’t stopped. I got to where I was not even able to think, forgot things, missed meetings and was just not myself. Who was this person? What in the world was going on? Where was I? Who was I? This tortured me even more. I usually can write about my thoughts, feelings and am never at a loss for words but honestly – I was having trouble even saying words. I didn’t tell anyone except that I wasn’t feeling great. Finally, I went to the doctor – had tests and blood work. I mean a lot of tests and a lot of blood. I had several things physically wrong with me but the biggest thing was that I was completely depleted of Vitamin D. I was even taking a supplement because this time last year – it was low. Vitamin D – the “Sunshine” vitamin is so important and I never even thought about it! I started taking a prescribed Vitamin D as small as a Tic-Tac and it has made such a difference. I have a few other issues and am doing some procedures and Physical Therapy to improve other parts of my body but a simple little vitamin has changed my life. So why did I wait so long to take care of me? Why didn’t I realize that I couldn’t take care of others if I fell apart and in fact, they may have to care for me – what a burden I would be then!
So for 2016, I have found “me” again and I am happy! I like and love me! I am back to who I used to be. Now I am going to be the first to tell you – there are many areas that I need to improve but I am working hard on those every day! I am excited to be going into a new year and finding a better me at the end of the year!

Images and videos of who loves me
I encourage you to take care of yourself. Don’t miss all those warning signs. You are not supposed to feel bad, if you do, go see a doctor. Do something for yourself – it is the best investment you can make. Also, most important…listen to God and follow his plans…he knows the way and he will guide you.
I hope to hear from all of you as you start the New Year to find yourself!


Eat, Drink and be Merry and Get Healthy


I love food – every kind!  You could say it is my hobby…I eat when I am happy, stressed, mad, for enjoyment,well,  for every possible reason.  I love cooking, eating out, tasting new recipes, cooking family recipes…let’s facing…I am a foodaholic!! I have struggled over the years with eating right, working out and just getting healthy.  I have dieted, exercised and just can’t seem to stick with anything.  Last year I lost 43 lbs. and then stopped losing – no matter what I tried – I gave up…I gained it all back…why can’t I do this?  I am not a failure.  I am sure so many of you feel the same way – it’s yo-yo time!  Up and down with dieting, healthy living and exercise.  Usually we are so committed at first and then somehow we don’t have time, we don’t make time, we let other things come between us and taking care of ourselves – all good reasons we think – but if we are not around long enough – we will not be able to take care of these things.  I learned that it is ok to pray for yourself, to take care of yourself, to make time for exercise – you are not being selfish – you are trying to make sure you are going to be there for others for a much longer time!  

So once again, I tried to start about 4 weeks ago and I am eating so much better and I have lost 10 pounds.  I wanted to lose more and I wish it was coming off much faster but this time – I am having fun with it!  I have been craving Fried Chicken – one of my favorite foods.  Well – not exactly a healthy choice but today – I must say – I am very impressed with the best tasting “fried chicken” that I ever made.  I took some chicken breasts and flattened them and rolled them in crushed pistachios and drizzled them with honey and put some olive oil in a baking dish and baked them.  Not only were they beautiful – they tasted amazing!  I have found fabulous recipes and am being creative with our meals.  Why can’t eating healthy be fun?

I am praying and preparing to begin the Daniel Plan (from the Saddleback Church – Rick Warren’s church) for Lent beginning March 5 through April 17.  40 days to a Healthier Life.  Faith, Food, Fitness, Focus and Friends – sounds like a winning combination for me.  I hope you will think about joining me in this plan.  I am studying Daniel and looking at videos so that I can be ready when I start.  Pray for me that I can be completely committed during this 40 day period.  Let me know if you need my prayers and if you will join me.



1 Corinthians 10:31  Amplified Bible – So then, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you may do, do all for the honor and glory of God.

Connecting with you,



Learning to say NO!!



Well if you know me at all – you know that “NO” is not really a part of my vocabulary and I am sure you find it funny that I would dare write on this topic.  I agree – “My name is Leigh Christian, and I have a problem…saying NO!”  I have spent alot of time thinking about why this is such an issue for me and thought I would share my thoughts.  I am NO expert on this topic nor do I always heed my own advice but I am trying to understand and strive to do better.

Reasons that I (and yes – you) have trouble saying no are so numerous, but here are a few:

1.)  You don’t want to let anyone down.  You feel that you need to please them, help them, save them or something like that!  You feel if you don’t do whatever it is – whether it is bring snack, take everyone home, host the event, etc. – no one else will.  YOU and you alone are responsible for everyone’s happiness…

2.)  You don’t want to feel left out!  If you don’t participate and take care of things – you might not get asked the next time.  You sometimes feel that is the only reason people include you – because they know you will drive, you will pay or you will handle all th arrangements.You are scared you may burn bridges if you say “no” now. 

3.)You don’t want to be rude!  Sometimes you feel like you would hurt someone’s feelings if you said “no” to them. 

4.)  You really want to help!  There are so many great causes and you think you should support them all…from starving homeless kids, cancer research, save the whales…and the list goes on and on and on… It is so inspirational, respectful and just plain ole fun to participate and support worthy causes – just pick a few and commit to them.  You can’t be all things to all organizations and causes. 

5.)  You are afraid of conflict – you may make someone mad if you said “no” to them so you avoid saying it.  We all like to avoid conflict so we just do something because it is “easier”??  Really?  Just woman-up and say “NO”.

6.)  You fear that something exciting, award winning, the best moment of your life may happen if you participate so it is hard to say “no” just thinking that your lifelong dream might be achieved!

7.)  You want to be the one to prove that something can be done – you can raise the money, you can make things easier, you can inspire others…

Well – I have thought all those things so often.  I really don’t like to say “no” but I have learned that life does go on if I don’t kill myself to get something done, friends still are there if they are true friends, and if I don’t take care of myself then i won’t be around to say “yes” or “no” in the future.

So how can you (Yes and me) say “No” without feeling horrible.

1.  Say that you need to “prayerfully consider” before accepting the task.  One of my friends said that to me one time and I will never forget it.  I wasn’t mad – I respected her for saying that. Most of the time,  I jump into things head on sometimes and don’t even realize what else I may have on my plate. Often I have committed to too much and reach burn out!  Prayer is always the answer! 

John 5:30  The Voice (VOICE)

30 I have not ever acted, and will not in the future act, on My own. I listen to the directions of the One who sent Me and act on these divine instructions. For this reason, My judgment is always fair and never self-serving. I’m committed to pursuing God’s agenda and not My own.

2.  Say “no’ politely, just be honest…say that right now is not a great time because of other commitments but to check with you again.

3.  Suggest someone else that may just be looking for an opportunity to serve.  When you always step up – you are sometimes keeping someone else from receiving the blessing that they may have received. 

4.  Offer support, mentoring, suggestions, assistance but ensure that you don’t take on a role or commitment.  You can still show interest in the project, task or person…just don’t take it own for yourself. 

5.  Sometimes you just have to say “no”…for no other reason except you don’t want to do something, don’t have time, don’t believe in the cause or you are too tired.  Don’t beat yourself up!  It is ok – life will continue. 

So I will pray for you as you please pray for me.  Saying no is hard, but necessary to our own well-being. 

Connecting with you…

Connections Coach

Leigh Christian


Enjoy the Reese’s PIECES in your life – have some fun!

I love the way a Reese’s Pieces just melts in my mouth. 


I love the fall colors that brightens my day and I love how fun they are too eat!  I had several coincidences with them recently and it made me stop and think about having fun, enjoying life and appreciating what I have.  God wants us to enjoy life…there are several verses in the Bible that demonstrates this:

Ecclesiastes 9:7-10 (The Message)

7-10 Seize life! Eat bread with gusto,
Drink wine with a robust heart.
Oh yes—God takes pleasure in your pleasure!
Dress festively every morning.
Don’t skimp on colors and scarves.
Relish life with the spouse you love
Each and every day of your precarious life.
Each day is God’s gift. It’s all you get in exchange
For the hard work of staying alive.
Make the most of each one!
Whatever turns up, grab it and do it. And heartily!
This is your last and only chance at it,
For there’s neither work to do nor thoughts to think
In the company of the dead, where you’re most certainly headed.

Ecclesiastes 7:14  On a good day, enjoy yourself; On a bad day, examine your conscience. God arranges for both kinds of days So that we won’t take anything for granted.

God wants us to enjoy our life.  Find things that make you happy.  Don’t sweat the small things and stay positive.  Find true joy…don’t worry be happy!

I will share some things that make me truly happy – maybe it will give you some ideas…

Help other people – I always get blessed double for doing something that I love!

Make time for people –  Ask someone how they are doing, compliment them, make someone feel special.  Believe it or not – it makes you feel good too!

Encourage someone – when you are inspiring or encouraging others – you get inspired and encouraged.

Basically – to have fun, help others have fun….to enjoy your life….help others to enjoy theirs.  Blessings come to those who bless.


Connecting with you,


Connections Coach


I have known for a while that God has wanted me to do something but I couldn’t figure it out.  I wish I was one of those people that actually heard God’s voice – I haven’t.  I do get this feelings and coincidences that are interesting and I think that it is God telling me and guiding me.  I have had the word Connections for a really long time.  Many people call me the Connector and I am known for connecting people.  (to God, to others, in business, to careers…)  I thought God had spoken to me to write a book.  I had lots of positive feedback on my blog and thought that must be what God wanted.  Then I thought that God wanted me to be a speaker like Beth Moore, Joyce Meyer…like I could ever do that.  I just couldn’t figure out what God was telling me to do.  He had sent me on a journey and I have learned so much on this pathway.  I believe that Connections Coach is what God is guiding me too.  I want to be a Christian Life Coach.  We all need an accountability person – a person that you can share ideas with, someone that provides encouragement, listens, forces you out of your comfort zone and helps support you.  I already do that all the time and I feel that it will be a great ministry for me.  People are always seeking my advice or want to brainstorm with me so I am asking for your prayers.  God is guiding me and I think I am doing what he wants…sometimes it is hard to know if it is my desire or God’s.  Maybe and hopefully both!  Image

Ephesians 4  The Message (MSG)

To Be Mature

1-3 In light of all this, here’s what I want you to do. While I’m locked up here, a prisoner for the Master, I want you to get out there and walk—better yet, run!—on the road God called you to travel. I don’t want any of you sitting around on your hands. I don’t want anyone strolling off, down some path that goes nowhere. And mark that you do this with humility and discipline—not in fits and starts, but steadily, pouring yourselves out for each other in acts of love, alert at noticing differences and quick at mending fences.

4-6 You were all called to travel on the same road and in the same direction, so stay together, both outwardly and inwardly. You have one Master, one faith, one baptism, one God and Father of all, who rules over all, works through all, and is present in all. Everything you are and think and do is permeated with Oneness.

7-13 But that doesn’t mean you should all look and speak and act the same. Out of the generosity of Christ, each of us is given his own gift. The text for this is,

He climbed the high mountain,
He captured the enemy and seized the booty,
He handed it all out in gifts to the people.

Is it not true that the One who climbed up also climbed down, down to the valley of earth? And the One who climbed down is the One who climbed back up, up to highest heaven. He handed out gifts above and below, filled heaven with his gifts, filled earth with his gifts. He handed out gifts of apostle, prophet, evangelist, and pastor-teacher to train Christ’s followers in skilled servant work, working within Christ’s body, the church, until we’re all moving rhythmically and easily with each other, efficient and graceful in response to God’s Son, fully mature adults, fully developed within and without, fully alive like Christ.

14-16 No prolonged infancies among us, please. We’ll not tolerate babes in the woods, small children who are an easy mark for impostors. God wants us to grow up, to know the whole truth and tell it in love—like Christ in everything. We take our lead from Christ, who is the source of everything we do. He keeps us in step with each other. His very breath and blood flow through us, nourishing us so that we will grow up healthy in God, robust in love.

Connecting in Christ,


Second chances


God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble. Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. Resist him, standing firm in the faith, because you know that your brothers throughout the world are undergoing the same kind of sufferings – 1 Peter 5:5-9

Sometimes it is so easy to think that you are the only one dealing with problems.  It seems like we are all alone because we don’t want to talk to others about things we have done wrong.  This morning at church – the sermon title was about second chances…I think we all have to have second chances from time to time.  Maybe we did something wrong but we really are sorry and we need another chance.  Maybe we tried to do something and we just weren’t good enough – don’t give up – take a second chance.  I have a young adult friend and she made some mistakes when she was 18, she got married very young, she had a baby – she sowed some wild oats.  She knows she made mistakes…but now she is really trying to improve and it just seems like life just don’t want to give her a chance.  Its hard for her to get a job with here child care needed, it is hard for her to get to work because her car is messed up, oh and then she has to have gas money….wait did I mention she has to have black pants and special shoes?  How does a person with nothing survive?  All I can say is turn to God.  God never fails us even though we fail him over and over again.  Image

No matter how down and out life may be for you or someone you are helping – God can pull you through.  He sometimes doesn’t do things the way we plan and gives us new opportunities or new people in our path – but he knows what he is doing! 

I need a second (well ok probably 40th) chance to start taking care of myself.  I start over and over – I need your prayers and support.  I know God has got this and I hope I can see it through with him.  I need to continue my prayers and reading my scripture.  I need to relax and clear my mind more often.  You know it is ok – at least I am striving to improve…again.  Hey – why don’t you make improvements with me and keep me posted on your progress.

Love connecting with you!




1 Peter 3:3

We are always trying to do things to make ourselves more beautiful.  Lose weight, color our hair, new makeup, plastic surgery….oh, the list goes on.  We are always searching for beauty and how we can be more beautiful.  I wish I could lose weight, get rid of my heart surgery scar, were more tan, had smooth complexion…why can’t we just be happy with ourselves?

Audrey Hepburn’s Beauty Tips

For attractive lips, speak words of kindness.

For lovely eyes, seek out the good in people.

For a slim figure, share your food with the hungry.

For beautiful hair, let a child run his or her fingers through it once a day.

For poise, walk with the knowledge you’ll never walk alone.

People, even more than things, have to be restored, renewed, revived,  reclaimed, and redeemed; Never throw out anybody.

Remember, If you ever need a helping hand, you’ll find one at the end of your arm.

As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands, one for helping yourself, the other for helping others.

The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the  figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman must be seen from in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides.

The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mole, but true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It is the caring that she lovingly gives, the passion that she shows, and the beauty of a woman with passing years only grows!

1 Samuel 16:7

But the LORD said to Samuel, “Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The LORD does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.”

I know I do want to be beautiful inside and out.  I need to pray, worship, give, love and obey God and trust him.  He sees the beauty in each of us…we just need to see the beauty within ourselves.

Go – be beautiful…..inside and out!

Connecting with you always…