I guess you thought I was talking about a different “f” word, huh? Well, no – I am talking about the word – FINE. How often is something really wrong with you and you just say, “I’m Fine”. I said that to my doctor yesterday and she laughed and she said well why did you come in? ” I can see in your eyes that you are not fine so why did you say it?” It made me think that she is right…so often we just say, I’m fine and are really thinking that there is not enough time to share all that is really wrong. Do you do that? I think we all do! I am going to make an effort to be more open and honest and share with people how that I am doing or what I am thinking. How many of you have been told where you are going to eat dinner and you just shrug and say…”that’s fine….and you know you will be miserable. Why do we not speak up? i think it is because we don’t want to be confrontational. You know – people want you to be happy so speak up. I understand why you don’t – you don’t want to seem like you are disagreeing or you don’t want to cause trouble or that you are selfish. I have learned that many times the other person was trying to please me in the first place and they just didn’t make a good recommendation. I do think you should not always get your way and that you should definitely compromise but you should mention what you want to do. So often we think others know what we are thinking, or we think that it is obvious…well it isn’t. If you want to go on vacation or do something fun – talk it out with your family. Maybe someone is just waiting for you to say something. If you have a thought or idea at work – share it – don’t be afraid to speak your mind – it does matter!
When someone says that they are fine – that should be a warning sign that something is wrong. If someone says that to you – ask them some deeper questions, show them you care and you want to know what is going on. Many times they know if they start talking, they may not be able to stop or they may even start crying. Be a friend…talk it through with them! Think about how you feel when you say that you are doing fine! I hope that you will all start speaking your mind and tell how you really feel and I hope that many of you will feel that you are fabulous!
God can do anything, you know—far more than you could ever imagine or guess or request in your wildest dreams! He does it not by pushing us around but by working within us, his Spirit deeply and gently within us. Glory to God in the church! Glory to God in the Messiah, in Jesus! Glory down all the generations! Glory through all millennia! Oh, yes! Ephesians 3:20-21 MSG
So when you are just feeling “Fine” – look to God and he can do so much for you – just let him!