I am beginning a new small group with my best friend Sarah. It is geared for young women and I am so looking for it! We have felt led by God to share our stories, make others accountable and just listen to this group of young women. We decided to start with the Beth Moore book, “So Long, Insecurity”. I recommend you read it! Let me know if you want to be a part of this group!
God has a plan for every person. For you. In you. Through you. So if God has a plan – how can we not be more confident? We have God on our side. We allow ourselves to create ideas, insecurities and just plain craziness to creep into our thoughts. STOP it now! Start praying that you will rely more on God and follow his plans and not your own.
Jeremiah 29:11-14 (New Living Translation)
11 For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope. 12 In those days when you pray, I will listen. 13 If you look for me wholeheartedly, you will find me. 14 I will be found by you,” says the Lord. “I will end your captivity and restore your fortunes. I will gather you out of the nations where I sent you and will bring you home again to your own land.”
Here is a link to a great Charlie Brown clip about Linus and his blanket – it really shows that we are all Insecure.
From Wikipedia – Insecurity is a feeling of general unease or nervousness that may be triggered by perceiving of oneself to be vulnerable in some way, or a sense of vulnerability or instability which threatens one’s self-image or ego.
Your BIGGEST enemy is your INSECURITY about yourself!
Many people (including myself) perceive the world as out to get them or a hope to see you fail…that is just not how life works! Get over it! We often make ourselves anxious, pessimistic, rejected and long for security. At some point or the other – we have all felt this nervous energy that no one really likes us. Haven’t you?
Steps of insecurity
A person who is insecure lacks confidence in their own value, and one or more of their capabilities, lacks trust in themselves or others, or has fears that a present positive state is temporary, and will let them down and cause them loss or distress by “going wrong” in the future. This is a common trait, which only differs in degree between people. It affects some people really hard and contributes to their shyness, paranoia, or maybe even bullying or aggression.
One of the biggest relationship killers is INSECURITY! Insecurity can destroy you! Steve Futrick said, “The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel.” We always think that someone is so much better, smarter, and stronger than we are; but we are not always seeing the real “them”. Why is it that we are always so hard on ourselves? It is just time to give ourselves a break! We deserve it!
Ways to conquer relationship INSECURITY
1.) Stop confusing imagination with reality.
2.) Avoid the certainty trap.
3.) Give the relationship room to breathe.
4.) Stop “mind reading”
5.) Stop comparing current relationships to past relationships.
6.) For security: Seek self-assurance.
7. Focus on the good. Stay positive!
When I started to make my changes – I felt very insecure. I felt like I wouldn’t have the energy or the abilities to work out. I didn’t think I had the willpower to eat healthier. I wouldn’t be able to read Bible or pray every day – I was already overcommitted and don’t know how I could find more time to do these things. Take care of myself? Just no time. WAIT! I couldn’t afford not too! I would not have much time if I didn’t make time now. It is so crazy but I eat healthier and have great food, I exercise daily. I read my devotions, my Bible and pray on a regular basis. I have even found time to go pray at our church prayer chapel. It seems that time magically appeared – how did that happen? God works things out for us – we just have to trust him.
Physical – I will do something to make me feel better about myself – get my nails done! I really have awesome fingernails and love to have them show off my personality – lots of color and bling!
Mental – I will look in the mirror and tell myself that I am good. I look good, I am good and I am getting better.
Spiritual – I will pray for confidence for myself. I will pray that God will guide me and I will let him be my pilot instead of me always leading the way.
Prayers for you as you make a commitment to have more confidence and to believe in yourself!
Pray for me that I will be continue in my confidence and will fight my insecurities!